Attending a funeral service in Montreal? You might feel a bit awkward, and that’s understandable. It can be difficult to know what to say to someone who is grieving. Offering condolences to the family is part of paying your respects. If you’re worried about being overcome with emotion or not knowing what to say, here are some tips that can give you confidence even if it feels uncomfortable.
Words for Sympathy
When you attend a visitation or funeral, don’t avoid the family who is grieving. Of course, you should be aware of what you say, but you don’t have to be witty or charming. It can help to practice what you want to say. You can keep your words short and to the point when paying your respects.
Here are a few phrases that you can adjust to fit the situation:
- I have fond memories of your dad. He will be missed.
- I am so sorry for your loss. I know your aunt was loved by many people.
- Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
- I’m here for you.
- If you want to talk, please call me. I’d love to hear about your memories.
Know What Not to Say
When you’re attending a funeral in Montreal, remember that it is not the time and place to gossip or tell jokes. Even though humor can lighten the darkness, don’t try it at a funeral. Here are few things that you shouldn’t say:
- He’s in a better place.
- At least she didn’t suffer.
- How did it happen?
- Don’t cry.
- You need to be strong.
Know that People Cry at Funeral Services
Funerals are for grieving. If the person to whom you’re speaking gets upset, remember that it might not be anything you said. Apologize for saying something wrong. Add that it’s okay to grieve, especially if the other person apologizes. Sometimes, you don’t need to say anything. Being there can be enough. It’s okay and normal to feel awkward. Just do your best to be comforting.
After the service, give some thought about how you’d like to be remembered or comforted. Pre-planning your funeral can help your family through the grieving process. Contact us about funeral planning services.
